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May 18, 2026

Anxiety's Evil Connection to Insomnia: Sleep Expert Warns Against Focusing on the Future

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The Sleep Mistake Sabotaging 90% of People (And Why Your Mattress Won’t Fix It)

Most people think their insomnia comes from stress or bad habits—or that a new mattress or fancy app will be the magic fix. But leading sleep expert Andrew Colsky, the “Sleep Science Guy,” says the truth is far more surprising: Our behaviors and beliefs around sleep, not just our bedding or lifestyle, are the real culprits keeping us awake.

The Real Roots of Sleeplessness

Insomnia isn’t just “I can’t fall asleep”—it’s any trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up too early. And while anxiety is a big player, Colsky reveals that our obsession with sleep perfection—and our quick-fix culture—actually make things worse. Case in point: “Orthosomnia,” a new phenomenon where people become so anxious about their sleep tracker scores, they end up sleeping worse.

Why Sleep Tech and Products Fall Short

Jumping from one product or app to another each night? It’s a recipe for disappointment. Science shows that real sleep improvement comes from consistent behaviors—resetting routines, not just buying gadgets. Even the perfect mattress can’t override poor sleep habits or anxious minds.

The Science-Backed Solution: CBTI

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBTI) is the gold standard, but shockingly, there are fewer than 800 certified practitioners nationwide. CBTI dives deep into your daily routines, thoughts, and sleep diary—pinpointing the behaviors that fuel insomnia and teaching you how to change them. The result? Deep, restorative sleep—no pills required.

Nightmare Therapy and The Power of Rescripting

Nightmares aren’t just for trauma survivors. Colsky explains how “rescripting” can literally rewrite your nightmares—transforming negative patterns into peaceful sleep, supported by science.

Don’t Blame the Mattress—But Don’t Ignore It Either

Your sleep environment matters. An old or unsupportive mattress, menopause-related hot flashes, or room conditions can derail sleep. But the biggest mistake? Expecting overnight miracles. Your body needs weeks to adjust to both new products and new behaviors.


Key Takeaways:

  • Most insomnia is caused by behaviors and anxiety, not just stress or bad beds.
  • Sleep trackers can increase anxiety and worsen your sleep (“orthosomnia”).
  • CBTI is the most effective, science-backed treatment for insomnia—no meds needed.

Want to Sleep Better?
Start tracking your behaviors, not just your hours. Explore CBTI resources, evaluate your environment, and give your body time to adjust. For more expert sleep solutions, check out SleepScienceToday.com and listen to The FAM Podcast.